I (38M) have been with the department for fourteen years. I’ve got a daughter in third grade at Riverside Elementary, and I coach her soccer team on weekends. I’m not some hothead – I know how to de-escalate, I know when to step in, and I know when something is about to go sideways before it happens.
This started about six weeks ago when I noticed a guy – mid-forties, dark blue sedan, always parked just past the crosswalk on pickup days – watching the kids come out. Not waiting for one. Just watching. I ran his plates twice. His name is Dennis Farrow (47M), and he has two prior charges for loitering near a school zone, one of which was reduced to a fine. Nothing that gets him on the registry. Nothing I can legally act on without more.
I flagged it to the principal, Karen Obi (51F). She said she’d look into it. She didn’t. I reported it to my sergeant, Mike Callahan (55M). He told me unless Farrow does something, our hands are tied. I get it. I hate it, but I get it.
Then last Tuesday, I pulled into the pickup line and there were nine motorcycles parked along the curb. Big bikes. Men in vests – a club called the Sheepdog Brotherhood. I know them by reputation. They run an anti-predator awareness program in three counties and they have a relationship with two precincts on the south side, but not ours.
Their president, a guy named Curtis Webb (52M), walked over to my window before I even got out of the car. He said, “Officer, we know about the man in the blue Chevy. We’ve been watching him for eleven days. We’re not here to cause trouble. We’re here so he knows he’s been seen.”
I looked past Curtis to the Chevy. Dennis Farrow was still in his seat. But his hands were on the wheel and his eyes were straight ahead.
I told Curtis I needed him to move his guys back from the crosswalk. He nodded, said “Yes sir,” and had them shift back thirty feet without a word.
Then the dismissal bell rang. Three hundred kids came pouring out.
Farrow’s car didn’t move for four minutes. Then he pulled out slowly and drove away. Curtis watched him go, then looked back at me and said, “He’ll be back. He always comes back. But now he knows we will too.”
I didn’t arrest anyone. I didn’t file a report. I stood there in the pickup line and let it happen.
My sergeant found out and he is FURIOUS. My union rep says I could be looking at a conduct review. Half my buddies at the precinct say I did the right thing. The other half say I set a dangerous precedent by letting a civilian group operate like that on school grounds.
But here’s the thing nobody’s asking: how did the Sheepdog Brotherhood know about Dennis Farrow before I did?
Curtis told me they had documentation. Eleven days of it. Dates, times, photos.
He handed me a folded envelope through my window. I opened it and started going through the pages inside, and when I got to the third photo –
What Was In That Envelope
The third photo was dated eleven days before last Tuesday.
Farrow’s blue Chevy, same spot past the crosswalk, same angle. But in this one the driver’s side window was down and he had his phone up. Pointed at the kids coming out of the building.
I sat with that for a second. My hands didn’t shake. I’m trained not to let that happen in front of people. But something in my chest went cold and stayed cold.
There were fourteen photos total. Farrow at Riverside on seven different pickup days. Farrow at Millbrook Park two blocks east, which is where the soccer fields are. Farrow sitting in a different car – a gray Honda I’d never seen – outside the YMCA on Clement Street on a Saturday morning.
That last one hit different. I coach Saturday mornings. My daughter is at that YMCA every other week for swim lessons.
He’d been rotating vehicles.
I looked up at Curtis, who was standing maybe four feet from my window, arms at his sides, not performing anything. Just waiting.
“How long have you been tracking him?” I asked.
“Forty-three days,” he said. “Riverside is the third school we’ve documented him at. The other two are in Heller County.”
I didn’t say anything for a moment.
“Why didn’t you come to us sooner?”
Curtis looked at me the way a man looks at you when he’s deciding how honest to be. He landed on honest.
“We did,” he said. “Heller County Sheriff’s office. Six weeks ago. They took the folder, thanked us, and we never heard back.”
The Part I Keep Coming Back To
I’ve been a cop for fourteen years. I know the system’s limits better than most civilians ever will. I know why cases stall. I know the difference between a guy who’s going to do something and a guy who’s done something, and I know which one the law can touch.
But forty-three days. Three schools. A second vehicle.
Nobody flagged the second vehicle. Not me, not Heller County, nobody. Because nobody was looking that hard. We had one plate and one prior and a sergeant telling us our hands were tied.
The Sheepdog Brotherhood had a spreadsheet.
Curtis Webb, who rides a 2019 Road King and has a granddaughter in second grade at St. Anthony’s on the west side, has been running this program for six years. They’ve got a network across four counties. Volunteers who take shifts. A protocol for documentation that some retired detective named Phil Greer helped them build back in 2018. They don’t confront. They don’t touch. They show up, they watch, they make sure the target knows he’s been seen, and they hand everything to law enforcement.
The problem is law enforcement keeps handing it back.
I took the envelope home that night. My wife, Donna, sat at the kitchen table while I spread the photos out. She’s not in the job. She’s a dental hygienist. She looked at every photo without saying anything, and when she got to the one from the YMCA she put her finger on it and said, “That’s the Saturday you had the flu. I took her.”
She took our daughter to swim lessons that Saturday.
Donna went to bed at nine. I sat at the kitchen table until past midnight.
What I Actually Did and Didn’t Do
Here’s where I have to be straight, because some of my guys are saying I “let a vigilante group operate on school grounds” like I deputized them and handed out badges.
I didn’t do that.
What I did: I told Curtis to move his people back from the crosswalk, and he did. I observed. I made sure nobody approached Farrow’s vehicle, nobody made physical contact, nobody blocked traffic. The Brotherhood stood on a public sidewalk in a group and watched a man sit in a car.
That’s it. That’s the whole thing.
Farrow left. No incident. No confrontation. Three hundred kids walked out into the afternoon and got into their parents’ cars and went home without knowing any of it happened.
What I didn’t do: file a report, call for backup, or order the Brotherhood to disperse.
The not-filing-a-report part is what’s killing me with Callahan. He found out because one of the other parents recognized Curtis from some community event and mentioned it to the school, and Karen Obi called the precinct. So now it’s documented anyway, just not by me, and that looks worse than if I’d written it up myself.
My union rep, a guy named Vic Donahue who’s been doing this for twenty years, told me to stop talking about it. He said “stop talking about it” four times in a ten-minute phone call, which is the most I’ve ever heard Vic say anything four times.
I probably should listen to him.
The Conduct Review
The review is in three weeks. It’s not a termination hearing, not yet, but Callahan wants it on record that I failed to act in accordance with department protocol regarding civilian groups on school grounds. His argument is that by not dispersing the Brotherhood, I implicitly sanctioned their presence, and that sets a precedent he doesn’t want.
I understand his argument. I’d probably make it too, if I were him and I didn’t know what was in that envelope.
But here’s the thing: I brought the envelope to the review. Vic almost had a stroke when I told him, but I brought it. Because if we’re going to have a conversation about what I did or didn’t do on that sidewalk, we’re going to have it with all fourteen photos on the table.
Farrow hasn’t been back to Riverside since Tuesday.
He was at Millbrook Park on Thursday, though. Different car again. A red pickup this time, which one of Curtis’s guys spotted and texted me about at 4:17 in the afternoon.
I drove over. Farrow was gone by the time I got there, but I got there, and I wrote it up, and this time it’s in the system with the Heller County documentation attached. My lieutenant, a woman named Gail Pruitt who I have a lot of respect for, read the whole file on Friday morning and spent forty minutes on the phone with the county DA’s office.
I don’t know what comes of that. Nobody’s told me anything yet.
What I’m Actually Asking
Am I wrong?
Not legally. I know the legal exposure. Vic’s been very clear about the legal exposure.
I mean morally. As a father. As a cop who is also a father, which is a combination that doesn’t always sit clean.
Because the version of this where I do everything right by the book – I approach Curtis, I explain that his group cannot be present on school grounds without authorization, I document the interaction, I call it in – Farrow sees nine motorcycles talking to a cop and he drives away and comes back next week and the week after and nobody’s built a case and nothing’s changed except now the Brotherhood knows the department will move against them before it moves against him.
That’s the version where I follow protocol.
I don’t know how to feel good about that version.
My daughter’s name is Lily. She’s eight. She has a gap between her front teeth and she laughs too loud at her own jokes and she takes soccer more seriously than I take most things in my adult life.
She doesn’t know any of this happened.
I’d like to keep it that way.
Curtis texted me Sunday. Just four words: He’s been quiet. Good.
I didn’t text back. I didn’t know what to say that wouldn’t make me sound like I was either endorsing him or threatening him, and I’m still not sure which side of that line I’m standing on.
Maybe both. Maybe that’s the honest answer.
Maybe that’s the part nobody at the conduct review is going to want to hear.
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For more stories about dads protecting their kids, check out My Son Said He Was “Practicing Being Small.” Then I Saw the Name on That Schedule. or I Walked Past the Kitchen Doorway and Saw My Son’s Face. We Left Before I Said a Word.. And for a different kind of moral dilemma, read I Saw My Old Boss Living on a Park Bench and I Just Kept Walking.
