“You should’ve seen her face when Marcus proposed – she had NO idea it was coming.” That’s what Dana said, laughing, refilling her wine at my own kitchen table.
I’d been planning that dinner party for three weeks. Marcus and I had been together for six years. The proposal had been the happiest night of my life, seven months ago.
Dana was the only person I’d told beforehand.
She kept talking. I kept smiling. My hands were shaking under the table.
“Trish, you okay?” Marcus said from across the table.
“Fine,” I said. “Just tired.”
After everyone left, I did the dishes and thought about what Dana had said. She had no idea. Like it was a performance. Like she’d watched it happen and found it funny.
I checked my phone at midnight.
Dana and Marcus had 214 text messages going back two years.
I sat down on the floor without deciding to.
I didn’t say anything the next morning. I made coffee. I kissed Marcus on the cheek. I went to work and I thought.
I called Dana on my lunch break.
“Hey, can you come over Saturday?” I said. “I need help with the seating chart.”
“Of course,” she said. “You know I’m always here for you.”
She didn’t even pause.
Saturday, I had everything ready before she arrived. The texts printed. The credit card statement Marcus didn’t know I’d found – the hotel on Clement Street, four times in the last year.
Dana walked in with flowers.
“You’re the best,” she said, setting them on the counter.
“I know,” I said. I put the stack of papers on the table between us.
She went completely still.
“Trish – “
“Don’t,” I said.
She looked at the hotel dates. She looked at me. Something moved across her face that I didn’t have a name for.
“It was ONLY TWICE,” she said. “The rest of those were just – “
“I said don’t.”
My phone buzzed on the counter. Marcus’s name on the screen.
Dana looked at it. Then she looked at me.
“He doesn’t know that you know,” she said. “But Trish – there’s something else. Something he told me that you need to hear from him.”
The Part Where I Should Have Screamed
I didn’t pick up the phone.
I watched it buzz twice more and go dark and I kept my eyes on Dana the whole time.
She was still holding her keys. Hadn’t even sat down. The flowers she’d brought were sitting in the crook of her elbow like she’d forgotten they were there – grocery store tulips, yellow, the same kind she’d brought to my apartment the night Marcus and I had our first real fight, four years ago. She’d sat on my kitchen floor with me then and told me he wasn’t worth it if he couldn’t see what he had.
I thought about that.
“Sit down,” I said.
“Trish – “
“I’m not asking.”
She sat. She put the flowers on the table next to the papers. They looked stupid there, next to the hotel receipts. Yellow tulips and a charge for $187 at a place called The Claremont Suites.
I’d looked it up. It has a pool. Good reviews on Yelp. A lot of people say the breakfast is excellent.
“How long,” I said.
She didn’t pretend not to understand. I’ll give her that.
“The first time was right after New Year’s. Last year.” She was looking at the table. “We were both drunk. At the Harmon’s party. It was – I told him it was a mistake. I told him it couldn’t happen again.”
“But it did.”
“Yes.”
The word landed flat. No apology attached to it yet. Just the fact of it.
I’d been engaged for seven months. I’d spent four of those months looking at venues with Dana. She had opinions about centerpieces. She’d cried when I showed her the dress.
The Thing She Said She Couldn’t Tell Me
“What is it,” I said. “This thing he told you.”
She finally looked up.
Her eyes were wet but she wasn’t crying. I noticed that. Like she’d made a decision about it.
“He was going to call off the proposal,” she said. “Before he did it. He called me two days before your birthday dinner and said he wasn’t sure. That he’d been thinking about things and he didn’t know if he could go through with it.”
I didn’t say anything.
“I told him to do it anyway,” Dana said. “I told him he was being an idiot. That you were the best thing that had ever happened to him and he needed to stop spiraling and just – ask you.” She pressed her mouth together. “He did.”
“Why are you telling me this.”
“Because you deserve to know what you’re actually dealing with.”
I looked at her for a long time. The way you look at something you’re trying to memorize because you know you’ll never see it the same way again.
“You slept with my fiancé,” I said. “Twice. That you’re admitting to. And you think that what he told you in confidence – in confidence, Dana – is information I need?”
“I think you need to talk to him.”
“I think you need to get out of my house.”
What I Did With the Next Three Hours
She left the tulips.
I put them in water because I didn’t know what else to do with them and my hands needed something to do. I filled the vase. I set it on the windowsill. I stood there looking at them for probably two full minutes.
Then I went and sat on the couch and I thought about the birthday dinner.
Marcus had been nervous that whole day. I’d noticed it. He’d been quiet in the car, fidgety, and I’d asked him twice if something was wrong and he’d said no, just work stuff, don’t worry about it. I’d believed him because I always believed him. That’s the thing about six years. You stop looking.
He’d proposed over dessert. Down on one knee, right there in the restaurant, and half the room had turned to look and I’d started crying before he even finished the sentence. My face had done something I couldn’t control. My hands had been shaking when I reached for him.
She had no idea it was coming.
Dana, laughing. Dana, refilling her wine.
She knew. She’d talked him into it.
I picked up my phone. Not to call Marcus. I went back to the texts.
I’d read them once, at midnight on the kitchen floor, fast and sick, looking for the worst of it. Now I read them again slowly. Start to finish. Two years of it.
Most of it wasn’t what I expected. That was the strange part.
A lot of it was ordinary. Inside jokes I wasn’t part of. Complaints about his job. Her sending him articles. Him sending her memes. The two hotel nights were in there, brief and ugly, and I read those parts without letting myself feel anything yet, just cataloguing.
But the rest of it.
He talked to her the way I thought he talked to me. That’s what got me. Not the sex. The talking.
Marcus Came Home at Six-Thirty
I heard his key in the lock.
I was still on the couch. The tulips were on the windowsill. The papers were still on the kitchen table where Dana and I had left them.
He came in, set his bag down, said “hey” in that automatic way, and then he saw my face.
“What happened,” he said.
I didn’t answer right away. I looked at him the way I’d been looking at the tulips. Trying to hold onto the version of him I’d had before midnight on Wednesday.
“Dana came over,” I said.
He went still. Not the way Dana had gone still – she’d gone still like something caught. Marcus went still like something bracing.
“Trish – “
“There’s stuff on the kitchen table,” I said. “Go look at it.”
He didn’t move for a second. Then he walked to the kitchen and I heard the silence that meant he was looking at the papers.
He came back to the doorway.
“How long have you known,” he said.
“Since Wednesday night.”
He closed his eyes. Opened them. He looked genuinely terrible, which I noticed without it meaning much to me yet.
“I need to tell you something,” he said.
“I know about the proposal,” I said. “That you almost didn’t.”
He looked at me. Then he looked at the floor. “She told you.”
“Yeah.”
He sat down on the coffee table across from me, which he always does and I always tell him not to because it’s not a chair. He put his elbows on his knees and his hands over his face.
“I was scared,” he said. “I didn’t – I convinced myself it was cold feet. That it was normal.”
“Was it.”
He looked up. “I love you.”
“That’s not what I asked.”
What I Haven’t Decided Yet
I’m writing this from my sister Karen’s guest room. Her husband Gary made pasta for dinner and didn’t ask me anything and I could have kissed him for it. Karen asked me once, when I got here, if I wanted to talk, and I said not yet, and she nodded and poured me a glass of wine and put on a show about people renovating houses.
I’ve been here four days.
Marcus has called eleven times. Texted more than that. I read them but I haven’t answered.
Dana has not called. I don’t know if that’s her respecting what I said or her just being done. I can’t figure out which one would hurt more.
Here’s what I keep coming back to: she talked him into it. The proposal, the ring, the dinner, my face doing that thing I couldn’t control. She engineered the happiest night of my life while she was sleeping with him. And then she sat at my kitchen table seven months later and laughed about how I hadn’t seen it coming.
I don’t know if she was trying to fix what she’d broken or if she just wanted a front row seat.
I don’t know which one is worse.
The seating chart is still on my laptop. Two hundred and twelve people. His family on the left, mine on the right, Dana’s name in the third row with a little star next to it because she was going to do a reading.
I haven’t touched it.
I have not called the venue. I haven’t called my mother. I’m not ready for any of that to become real yet.
I just keep thinking about those yellow tulips, sitting in my kitchen window right now, in a vase I filled with my own hands.
Nobody told me to do that. I just didn’t know what else to do.
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